Sexually Compatible Couples Strongly Desire to Please Their Partner - Monika Honory

Sexually Compatible Couples Strongly Desire to Please Their Partner

I make it no secret that there have been a couple of partners in my sex life’s past who, while I wasn’t all that physically attracted to them, the sex was still pretty damn good. It was because pleasing me was a passion of theirs. At the same time, there were a couple of other men in my life who really needed a mirror on the wall for them to look directly into because, while they were fine, they seemed to get off more on themselves than trying to make me happy.

Whenever I sit down with couples who are totally unsatisfied with their sex lives, something that I usually say is they are making things so much harder than they’ve got to be. If the guy is totally focused on pleasing his lady and the woman is totally into pleasing her man, it’s hard for the sex to not be totally off the charts. Problem is, just like with relationships in general, a lot of people aren’t in sync with their partner; they are more concerned about what they should be getting than what they should be giving. Sexual compatibility lacks selfishness. Any couple who is in true harmony in this area can certainly vouch for that.

Sexually Compatible Couples Have a Consistent Sex Life

For some reason, a lot of folks will read the word „consistent” and think that means all day, every https://besthookupwebsites.org/hookup-apps-for-couples/ day. But actually, consistent simply means to be constant in whatever it is that you are doing (or not doing). As far as sex goes, some of the married couples that I work with consistently have sex 2-3 times a week while others consistently have sex a couple of times a month. Both dynamics seem to be fine with that; things only get „weird” when there is less than what they have grown accustomed to.

If you’re curious about what the „general norm” is when it comes to intimacy, one study revealed that the happiest couples are those who have sex no less than once a week. I could see why that is the case. Between work schedules, household responsibilities and everything else on people’s to-do list, having sex once a week is something that a lot of couples find to be a realistic amount. At the same time, no matter what is happening in their lives, they make sure that they aren’t too busy to engage one another at least once a week. The sexual compatibility here is that sex isn’t treated like a „relational perk”; it’s a relational need and responsibility. Two people who are on the same page about that are sexually compatible in a way that is truly underrated. A lot of married couples in sexless marriages can certainly vouch for that.

So, there you have it. If you are wondering if you and yours are sexually compatible and your head moved up and down to these points, congrats. You’ve got something that a lot of people desire-a partner you are sexually in tune with. And that’s the makings for some pretty powerful and amazing sex!

Did you know that xoNecole has a new podcast? Join founder Necole Kane, and co-hosts Sheriden Chanel for conversations over cocktails each and every week by subscribing to xoNecole Happy Hour podcast on Itunes and Spotify.

Want more stories like this? Sign up for our newsletter here and check out the related reads below:

  • Sexual Compatibility Is As Important As Spiritual Compatibility . ›
  • 6 Tips For Dealing With A Sexually Incompatible Spouse – xoNecole ›